Hi, it’s Nina. If you are reading this, then I probably sent you to this website to avoid having a huge discussion that I have already taken part in a thousand times. I hope you understand that it’s nothing personal to you.
So, I may have used the word ‘non-binary’ when I was introducing myself to you and might not have explained what it means. Basically, non-binary gender is when someone feels uncomfortable with being referred to as a male or a female. They are not a boy, girl, man or woman. They aren’t confused, strange or any more special than anyone else because of it.
I am non binary. I don’t like being called a girl or a boy, although its fine if your first impression of me was incorrect. Instead of being called ‘she’, I prefer ‘ze’ and ‘hir’ replaces what once was ‘her’.
I know it’s confusing and hard to adjust to, but I promise you’ll get there with pronouns. I’m afraid I can’t say the same for being able to wrap your head around the whole thing. I’m not asking you to understand me, just to respect me.
Finally, for all those people who tell me I’m sick, alien, confused, wrong etc… I don’t care in the slightest what you think of me. I know the world isn’t ready. I know that the journey to being respected is difficult. I also know that that will never change if people like me are afraid to show the world who they are, to show the world that gender isn’t black and white: it’s a rainbow with endless colours.
